It’s not a diss post, it’s a real post.
I’ve been in a perpetual state of break up over the past two years. Breaking up with my fears, breaking up with dead weight, breaking up with my naysayers and breaking up with relationships that no longer serve me and my growth. I titillated with the idea of writing this post because I’ve found that when it comes to the social media-sphere, people err on the side of perfection. They like to point and stare, gawking at the audacity of authenticity. How could someone be so raw? So vulnerable? So true? If it isn’t flowery, enthusiastic and unreasonably optimistic then it’s crippling, debilitating and useless.
As I transition from the military back into civilian life, I’ve realized the many ways I’ve leaned on situations that are terrible for my spirit, my self-esteem and my identity, all for the sake of familiarity. There’s comfort in familiarity and that’s why sometimes we cling to things that no longer serve us for way longer than we should.
There’s comfort in familiarity+that’s why sometimes we cling to things that no longer serve us for way longer than we should. Click To Tweet
It may be a piece of junk hooptie but it’s YOUR hooptie. Yeah, you could get the Benz but what about the maintenance? The miles per gallon? The technology package? You know that with your Geo Metro if you turn the engine over three times, it’ll start up on the fourth, faithfully, every time. Cognitive dissonance is a MFer. Too often, we’ll find ourselves in situations where we’ve had the blinders on for too long and before we know it, we pick our heads up from the grind, look up and ask ourselves, “How did I get here?”
Stop committing yourself to those things, people and career paths that don’t enrich you and align you on the path you see for yourself on. Stop digging and digging, hoping and wishing that somewhere, deep down in that man, or woman, or job, or friend lies a symbiotic relationship that will fill your cup just as quickly as you pour into theirs. Are you honoring your truth or are you making excuses? “This job will do for now,” “He’s going through a tough time,” “She’ll commit in a few.” Snap out of it! Honor your feelings. Be real with yourself.