“Some people are empowered by competition. I’m empowered by knowing there is none.”
Let me elaborate. Some people will read the intro to this post and think, “Wow, she thinks very highly of herself,” and others will understand precisely what I mean.
First, why shouldn’t I think highly of myself? Actually – why shouldn’t you? There’s a fine line between humility and settling. I absolutely agree with Beyoncé when she says “Always stay gracious, best revenge is your paper.” Yes! And I’m no stan. But, sometimes we sell ourselves short in order to appease others and that’s where balance is key.
It took me a long time to find balance between humility and unapologetically knowing my worth. If you cannot see the worth in the things you do, the person you are and what you bring to the table – then who will? You have to be so comfortable in your confidence that there’s no room for you to be worried or threatened by the next person. I truly cannot concern myself with where others are in their race to greatness because their race is truly just that … theirs. And my race is mine.
Through cooperation, competition is unnecessary. It may be idealistic to some but winning together vice apart feels so much more rewarding. We don’t have to be in competition against one another … there’s plenty to go around. Mutual respect and encouragement are cornerstones to great leadership because they nurture feelings of trust. It’s been my experience that those who are motivated by competition are usually lacking in trusting others and ultimately in trusting themselves. They don’t trust themselves to attain their goals so they use the lives of others as benchmarks of validation that they’re actually making something of their lives because relatively speaking they’re better off than the next person. Think about how limiting that can be to one’s potential? If we’re constantly just trying to be better than the next person’s expectations, what does that say about the one’s we have for ourselves?
Competition can absolutely be a healthy tool, especially for short-term goals. As a life philosophy though, I can’t help but be wary.
How are you motivated? Do you enjoy healthy competition?